
Here is my post for the Special Issue of Outside Influences for iTDipro. I hope you enjoy this story!
When I remember myself as a little child, I always remember a rather quirky child that disliked pink, princesses and fairy tales, and most toys – instead, I loved reading, as I could read from a very young age. I read anything I could. I was also an absolute klutz when it came to anything graceful, like ballet. I disliked being in big crowds.
I loved another thing along with reading: listening to “real” stories.
I was and I am very fortunate to have someone in my life who taught me that I was not weird, and he taught me so much more. He has nothing to do with ELT. Most of his working life was spent in restaurants, with grueling schedules, either as a waiter, chef, owner, or all three together. He is my first teacher and a huge part of who and what I am is thanks to him. He is my dad.
Despite his very long working hours, sometimes working 16-17 hours or more (he has always gone on very little sleep which is something I have also got from him), he was always there for me, either on the phone, in the morning before he went to work, or at night, after he returned. What have I learned from him? Numerous things, but I will mention a few:
- No matter what you do in your life and how far you get, you are equal to everyone else and never forget where you come from. I always saw this in the interaction with his customers, the good ones, the difficult ones. He treated everyone the same and had a joke and a smile for everyone.
- You always need to be polite and not load other people with your bad mood. You can talk about that with people close to you. He also told us that you know when a person is genuine and kind by how they treat waiters and children 🙂
- Pay attention in school, but also outside school. You can learn from anyone, anywhere.
- He told me real stories. Even though I was only 11 at the time, he told me about the Berlin Wall. He told me about the war in Vietnam. He introduced me to people like Martin Luther King and Neil Armstrong.
- The first movie I watched with him was…Rocky! Still one of my favourites. “Now what’s the message? Not that I want you going out there punching everyone…but see how much he tried for what he wanted?”
- He showed me a love of reading. He was and is always reading something, be it a book, newspaper or on his tablet – at 69 years old! He always loves talking about what he is reading. Now that I live far away from him, we still do this over Skype! He always starts like this: “Hey Vicky, listen to this…I read…”
Thank you Dad for all you are and all you teach me and have taught me. I am so grateful for every single day.
Reblogged this on Eugenia Loras.
What a lovely tribute to your father, Vicky! Thank you for sharing this. ❤
Many many thanks!
What a lovely post Vicky. This could start a whole new series of blogs, who has influenced us outside of the world of ELT.
Yes, Marjorie – iTDi started it all and I see it developing as a blog challenge!
I love this post Vicky, thank you for sharing. A genuine, good and wise man who brought you here, to us. Wonderful to meet him through you and your words.
Christina mou!
Thank you so much for your wonderful and moving words- you are SUPER!
You have an amazing dad, Vicky.
Thanks ever so much!
Thank you so much for sharing your father’s wisdom and warmth with us Vicky! I really connected to the way he taught you to respect everyone and to learn from everyone as well. Now we know the source of what was already apparent to all of us! 🙂
Josette, many many thanks! I am so happy to have him. And I saw that you wrote about your precious dad as well! I loved it!
It is always a pleasure to read you, Vicky! Why is it that every time I read you it reminds me of something I also experienced and brings tears to my eyes!??
Loving it and sharing it right now!
Many many thanks, Fabiana! İ really appreciate your kind words!
Hi Vicky! Lovely story! It reminds me of my own dad, who was formerly a footballer (back in those though post-war times) and then an accountant, working long hours, but always ready for our bedtime story when my sister and I were kids. I’ll always remember the first book he gave me, Little Dorrit, by Charles Dickens, which has a permanent place in my heart. Thank you for bringing back these sweet memories to me, dear Vicky !
Wow! What beautiful memories and thank you for sharing that, Carmen!
Vicky,
The warmth and regard your father has for the people around him comes through so clearly in this wonderful post. And the fact that you have learned and carry these lessons into your daily life and use them to help enrich our whole community makes this post doubly moving. Thank you for sharing. And please tell your father I said thanks to him as well.
Kevin
Hi Kevin!
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment! And my dad says a huge thank you to you as well. We both appreciate your warm words.
I am so happy we are connected, Kevin!
Wise lessons – and he has great taste in music too if I remember rightly?
He does, Sian! I got to know Motown music from him, jazz, rock ‘n’ roll, everything : )